Court Appearances - Putting Your Best Foot Forward

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Even the most mutually beneficial and uncontested of divorces requires making appearances in front of court, and the more bitter and acrimonious your divorce is, the more frequently you'll be required to appear before a judge. As such, you should be familiar with what will be expected of you during your court appearances and how to make a good impression. After all, the way you act in court can go a long way to establishing yourself as a responsible, mature adult, and this can have a positive effect on your divorce proceedings.

Playing the Part

As with a job interview or first date, a court appearance requires you to make as good an impression as you can based on a limited interaction with someone. As such, it's very important for you to put your best foot forward. Some important things to keep in mind include:

  • Dress the part. Courts of law are in many ways temples to the function of democracy, and as such, it's important that you act respectably in them. Part of this is dressing appropriately, to convey an air of courtesy and consideration. For men, this means wearing a coat and tie. For women, this means a blouse and slacks or skirt. Dress conservatively.
  • Have your best manners. Again, you want to convey the message that you are a mature, responsible person who is willing to work through the issues of the divorce and come to a compromise. You should make sure to answer any questions respectfully and in a calm tone of voice. Speak up, but don't be too loud. Try to keep your cool and don't fly off the handle, even if it does get stressful.
  • Come in prepared. Make sure you've talked to your lawyer and know what will be expected of you, both in terms of what you'll need to bring and any questions you'll need to answer. Bring any necessary files, licenses, or certificates with you.
  • Act in good faith. It's important to show that you're not willing to put differences behind you and act towards a fair compromise and the legal dissolution of the marriage. By showing that you're willing to move past any pettiness or vindictiveness, you can go a long way in getting the things you want, too.

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This article was published on 2010/03/27